Sunday, 21 September 2014
ELDER MUSIC: States – New Mexico to South Carolina
This Sunday Elder Music column was launched in December of 2008. By May of the following year, one commenter, Peter Tibbles, had added so much knowledge and value to my poor attempts at musical presentations that I asked him to take over the column. He's been here each week ever since delighting us with his astonishing grasp of just about everything musical, his humor and sense of fun. You can read Peter's bio here and find links to all his columns here.
Continuing our musical sojourn through the States, we're just finishing off the "new" states and venturing on, north and south.
For that state's song I turn to HANK WILLIAMS JNR.
It seems from the song that Hank got lucky in Clovis, New Mexico.
Now, to select one of those. I've chosen, not quite at random, JENNIFER WARNES.
The song, Big Noise, New York, was written by Marcelle Clements and Donald Fagen and it certainly sounds like a Steely Dan tune. That sort of thing is okay in small doses.
"THE BLIND CORN LIQUOR PICKERS, like the moonlight-brewed intoxicant for which they are named, play a variety of bluegrass whose origins are difficult to ascertain.
“As corn liquor flows through an old car radiator, old-time traditions mix with modern methods in ways that can be unsettling, inspiring, euphoric or blindness-inducing.
“It's bluegrass that burns going down, warms your gut, and then hits your head like a thunderbolt of white lightning."
The song they perform is called North Carolina. This was the only tune in my collection with that state's name in the title, so it got the nod.
Fortunately for me he writes and sings about other places as well. Indeed, his was the only song I found that mentions North Dakota. That also is the name of the song.
We don't have an old singer though – well, not one from that period but she is nearly one of us. Here is KIM RICHEY.
This is taken from an album called "The Beautiful Old Turn-of-the-Century Songs" where current artists interpret songs from back then. It really is a nice album.
Kim's song is Beautiful Ohio.
Tom is noted for his topical songs but he wrote in many different genres. I don't know how you'd categorise this one, My Oklahoma Lullaby. Probably just an observational song.
That's probably not unusual for successful performers (and a bunch of unsuccessful ones as well).
He continued this while at college but his plans were interrupted by a stint in the military (as they paid for his tuition). After that he returned to music and has released a bunch of albums.
From his biggest selling album, “Soul's Core,” we have Twin Rocks, Oregon. It may be the only song ever to mention the writer Richard Brautigan.
It's one from my childhood and was a favorite of my sister at the time and she went around singing (an approximation of) it all the time one year. The performer (besides her) is GUY MITCHELL.
As we're up to Pennsylvania, most of us know I'm talking about Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania.
The song really is about a chook but the state is mentioned in the title so that's good enough for me. That song is Sweet Rhode Island Red.
Okay, the song is just about Carolina – there are no songs that specifically mention South Carolina. However, the official song of the state is just called Carolina, so if it's good enough for them it's good enough for me.
There are many songs that reference Carolina but Kate's was really mellow and I think that's what was needed after Tina. Her song is Carolina Pines.
More states in two weeks' time.
Saturday, 20 September 2014
INTERESTING STUFF – 20 September 2014
WHO SHOULD HAVE KNEE REPLACEMENT SURGERY
Too often in government health videos for elders I've seen, the speaker sounds like he or she is talking to toddlers. This one, however, is a straight-forward explanation of how decisions for knee replacement surgery are made.
Because joint wear and tear is a common issue with elders, this is good to know.
And, if you or someone you know is a candidate for knee replacement surgery, here is a video from the same surgeon about what it involves.
SCOTTISH INDEPENDENCE FOR NON-BRITS
After a week-long hullabaloo about possible Scottish independence from the United Kingdom, the vote is in. There will be no is dissolution. You can read about it here.
Before referendum day, I discovered this video which could easily be named Scottish Independence for Dummies (that would be me) and it's fascinating to consider the ramifications if the vote had gone the other way. Take a look.
Click here to see how the numbers from the vote stacked up.
A FRICKIN' ELEPHANT
It is rare that I post a joke here because I think they don't work well in print a lot of the time. But this one from Darlene Costner is a really funny "out-of-the-mouths-of-babes" moment.
From the diary of a pre-school teacher:
My five-year old students are learning to read. Yesterday one of them pointed at a picture in a zoo book and said, "Look at this! It's a frickin' elephant!"
I took a deep breath, then asked, "What did you call it?"
"It's a frickin' elephant! It says so on the picture!"
And so it does.
THIN, FLEXIBLE SOLAR STICKERS THAT GO ANYWHERE
This is cutting edge solar science but not pie in the sky. It is being developed now and, as Xaolin Zheng explains, it can power the world while providing a sustainable energy future.
The video is 13 minutes long and gets into the scientific weeds a bit but it's worth sticking with (to coin a pun). It's an amazing new technology.
DOG EATS 43.5 SOCKS
I know, it sounds impossible or, at least, that the Dalmation should be dead. Not so. Take a look.
RECORD NET NEUTRALITY COMMENTARY
You will recall that not long ago I asked you to send your comments on Net Neutrality to the Federal Communications Commission – the idea being to persuade the commissioners to not allow “fast lanes” for big companies while slowing down web site delivery for sites that don't pay up.
The public commentary period closed this week and it set a record for the number of submissions, more than doubling the previous record of 1.4 million set with Janet Jackson's “wardrobe malfunction” that briefly exposed her breast during the 2004 Super Bowl.
Now we await the FCC's decision. You can read about that at The Guardian.
CBS TV SUED OVER A FARTING HIPPO
If you are a regular viewer of NCIS, you are probably familiar with Bert the farting hippopotamus, a running joke on the TV series that is so popular, CBS-TV has been selling the stuffed animal on its website.
Now, however, puppet maker Folkmanis Inc. is suing the network for $733,000 for copyright infringement. CBS issued this public response, according to Mediaite:
“We believe this to be a flatulent abuse of the legal system, and we intend to clear the air on this matter immediately.”
For those of you who are unfamiliar with the farting hippo, here is a scene from NCIS starring said toy:
THE WORST NEWS OF THE WEEK
In the category of scaring the pants off you, it's hard top Ebola and beheadings. Even so, this news joined them and global warming on my personal fright list:
”According to the new analysis by researchers at the United Nations and several academic institutions, there is an 80 percent chance that the world’s population, now 7.2 billion, won’t stop at nine billion in 2050 [as had been predicted], but will instead be between 9.6 billion and 12.3 billion by 2100.”
There are forces that could reduce that number, most particularly climate change that could
”...put major stresses on agriculture and water supplies, and these stresses were not considered as potential checks on population growth.
“Nor does the study take into account that population growth could trigger deadly calamities like food shortages, war, and disease even without climate change...”
It doesn't look good whatever happens. You can read more details at MIT Technology Review.
For boomers, PBS will premier a new documentary on Tuesday next week, 23 September, titled The Boomer List.
It seems to consist of interviews with one famous person born in each year of the baby boomer generation – 19 in all. Here's the trailer:
You can read more here and as always with PBS programming, check your local listings – shows are broadcast on different times and days throughout the country.
THE CAT PRINCE
Yeah, it's a commercial but anyone who has ever rescued a cat (or dog) will like the story.
Interesting Stuff is a weekly listing of short takes and links to web items that have caught my attention; some related to aging and some not, some useful and others just for fun.
You are all encouraged to submit items for inclusion. Just click “Contact” in the upper left corner of any Time Goes By page to send them. I'm sorry that I probably won't have time to acknowledge receipt and there is no guarantee of publication. But when I do include them, you will be credited and I will link to your blog IF you include the name of the blog and its URL.
Friday, 19 September 2014
Trying to Find Some Amusement in Being Sick While Old
So commonly does disease, decline and debility catch up with people in old age that for a majority of those who are younger, they are the only definition of being old.
That belief is so prevalent in the general population that after the half dozen years of research into aging I conducted that led me to create this blog a decade ago, it became my goal to refute it – we oldies are more than our aches and pains. Much more.
That doesn't mean I am in denial. After five or six decades of steady use, our bodies wear down. Stuff happens. Things go wrong. And there is an impressively large variety of ailments that can afflict us – from the deadly serious to just annoying.
Today I am concerned with the latter category.
Generally, I am remarkably healthy. (I say that in a whisper while knocking on wood.) Now, however, for the better part of a month, I have been off my feed, as it were, and for some periods of time in a lot of pain.
The first was abdominal cramps, the kind that cause screaming into a pillow, deep misery and pleas for a quick death.
After two days it began to subside, though my innards felt sore for a few more days, like they had been bruised, but I was grateful in the end that the gods had ignored my death requests.
The doctor has no explanation (a not uncommon diagnosis for me over the years) and it took another week before full energy returned.
No sooner was I almost mended than the entire length of gum on one side of my mouth swelled to a gargantuan size. The dentist supplied two kinds of antibiotics for the infection and after a week, it is nearly cleared up.
Nearly is the operative word. The pain, even with medication, makes it impossible (still) to wear my denture. This led to a few issues that I should have anticipated but did not.
One: It is amazingly difficult to talk without teeth. TH, F and V sounds don't work right at all. S and soft C take a lot of effort to sound as they should – or as close as possible – so talking for more than a few minutes is more tiring than I would have believed until it happened.
Also, attempting S's and soft C's too forcefully causes spitting if you're not careful and that's in addition to the ongoing drool. (These two side effects have almost – I said ALMOST – given me a newfound appreciation for unkind old age jokes some comedians tell.)
There were several misunderstandings in a phone conversation and I giggle now when I see that guy in the fraud/frog protection TV commercial.
I'm pretty sure, too, this explains why babies wait so long before they speak real words; no teeth yet.
Two: As I mentioned a couple of days ago, no way will I allow anyone – anyone at all – to see me without my denture but staying home for more than a week is not possible so I developed a few ruses that, if they didn't work, people were kind enough not to tell me.
For grocery shopping, I wrote the list on a larger piece of paper than usual and used it to tap my upper lip as though I were deep in thought. When I needed to speak to anyone directly, I covered my mouth with my hand and just made a joke of it: “Sorry, my denture's out for repairs and you don't get to see me without it.”
They usually laughed – with me (I think). In one case, to be sure the person understood I was kidding about something, I said, “I'm smiling behind my hand” and that seemed to work.
It's hard to shop with only one hand free so now I have obtained some face masks and I'll just let people wonder whether I'm contagious or I'm afraid of their germs.
Three: Last but hardly least, have you ever tried to eat with no teeth? For a week I've been subsisting on mashed potatoes, apple sauce and soup and I'm damned tired of it.
A few days ago, thinking that I was probably lacking enough green stuff and protein, I checked out the baby food aisle at the market. I'm here to report that Gerber's mashed peas are remarkably fresh tasting and their mixture of carrots, zucchini and broccoli is delicious too.
But look out for the chicken and noodles. Now I know why babies spit out so much food.
None of this stuff is a big deal. If these are the worst health issues I ever have, I win and I will be grateful. Meanwhile, I've managed some small amount of fun figuring out how to work around the no teeth problem.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Dani Ferguson Phillips: A Change in Perception or Just What the Doctor Ordered
Thursday, 18 September 2014
Elder Services in Your Town - Follow Up
Our experiment two days ago in holding a TGB open forum or what might be called a reader-to-reader feedback day on a specific issue appears to be a rousing success. The question of the day, from SusanG, was
”...what senior services are offered by your town, do you use them, or are their other services you would like to see offered?”
Commenters did an excellent job of letting us know what does and doesn't work in their communities and what could be improved. Many of you named the town or area where you live and that was particularly interesting to me.
Today's post is a short summary of your responses.
A number of readers are pleased with their local transportation – in such places as Fresno, Sacramento, Seattle, Ann Arbor, Cape Cod. Those communities use a variety of solutions: free or reduced-fare public transportation; scheduled buses to senior centers or shopping; inexpensive taxis for medication transportation, etc.
Lack of transportation is a big issue for a larger group of readers in such places as Yonkers, a Texas town, western Michigan, Montreal as it is in almost all rural and suburban areas in the U.S. and, I'm guessing, Canada too.
One person suggested the new, app-controlled taxi-like services Uber and Lyft.
They are mostly available only in large cities and they are controversial, so much so that Germany has banned them and some cities in the U.S. are looking into serious issues of insurance, liability, etc. that are required for licensed taxis but not these new services.
Just yesterday, a German judge lifted the ban but appeals are going forward. You can read more here and with that in mind, of course it's up to you to decide to use the services or not.
A few of readers reported mostly good elder services in their areas: Yonkers, Spain, Canada (transportation in Montreal notwithstanding) and an area of suburban New Jersey where SusanG, who submitted the question, lives.
As has been revealed in many surveys and studies of elder needs and desires for community services, more opportunities for social engagements are high on every old person's list.
Jean wrote poignantly of a common dilemma many of us share as friends die or move away:
”I don't have family near-by and no close friends. (I didn't get out much when I was a full-time caregiver to my husband for 12 years and a part-time caregiver to my dad in the 5 years before that.)
“Since my husband died 2 1/2 years ago I've been working my tail off trying to be active in various groups to help build friendships but but so far I have many friendly acquaintances but no close friend to exchange favors with.”
That's a big one for many of us old folks.
As several readers mentioned, almost as important as personal relationships is the small stuff – that can easily build up into big stuff. Suz put it this way:
”I would appreciate someone to clean and put away the outdoor furniture next week; someone to come by once or twice a year to explain the new (and old!) tech information for computer and cell phones.
“Someone who could assist going through boxes of memorable or useless items that now number in the dozens; help with eliminating unwanted clothing and household items & then donating them to my favorite homeless shelter.
“And I'd love for someone who could put together a list of all the small, pesky things (like screen repairs, paint touch-ups, ceramic gluing, etc.) and have it all done.”
These regularly needed and one-time household chores are precisely the kind of things that Villages volunteers can do so well. Jean left a note asking for links about how Villages work and how to start one.
Instead of many links, I'll give you one that that has an excellent library information from which you can pick and choose as is useful to you.
It is the website of Villages NW, my local Villages “hub” working hard to help build the (so far) eight Villages being developed in the Portland, Oregon area. Use the dropdown menus under the headers, Learn About Villages and Resource Library, where there are dozens of informative papers.
EXPLOITING THE ELDER MARKET
Cathy Johnson of Rockford, Illinois, left a comment about her visit to “Senior Expo” where, she says, only about 10 percent of the exhibitors had information of real value to elders:
”The majority were selling insurance, high-priced in-home care, bathtubs for those who cannot use a standard one, food supplements (the only vendor of these that I spoke to could not tell me the contents, only that it 'helped him avoid a recommended knee replacement a couple of years ago')...”
Yeah, right. You can read Cathy's entire comment here.
FUTURE TGB FORUMS AND YOU
So Tuesday's forum experiment confirmed some beliefs I have on elder needs and supplied a lot of new information, as I hope it did for you. As usual, all the comments were thoughtful, informative and useful.
This idea came from SusanG and just when I needed it, too. For a variety of reasons over the next several weeks I will not have as much time as usual to give to this blog.
The best reason is that Peter Tibbles, the “musicologist” who writes the Sunday Elder Music column on this blog and Norma, the assistant musicologist, arrive next week from Melbourne for a good, long visit I've been eagerly awaiting.
If Tuesday is any indication, the TGB Forum is a great way to reduce my time obligation and still keep the blog fresh every day. Here's how you can help:
In the comments today, leave your suggestions for future TGB Forum topics. It might be best to state them in the form of a question but that's not a requirement and don't let it confine you. They can be serious, informational or just fun/funny. As always at TGB, they must relate in some manner to aging.
You will be credited if I use your suggestion so if you have a personal blog, be sure to include the URL in the comment form so I have the link.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Mickey Rogers: A Long Lost (with good reason) Lone Ranger Show
Wednesday, 17 September 2014
DEA Allows Return of Unused Prescription Drugs
Once or twice a year in my town there is a day when residents can turn in leftover prescription drugs that are then disposed of properly rather than flushing them down the toilet to enter streams and rivers or be found in medicine cabinets by children or grandchildren.
The problem has now been addressed by the federal Drug Enforcement Administration (DEA). Beginning next month, the agency will
”...permit consumers to return [certain] unused prescription medications...to pharmacies,” reports The New York Times and others...
“The new regulation, which will go into effect in a month, covers drugs designated as controlled substances. Those include opioid painkillers like OxyContin, stimulants like Adderall and depressants like Ativan.
“Until now, these drugs could not legally be returned to pharmacies. The Controlled Substances Act allowed patients only to dispose of the drugs themselves or to surrender them to law enforcement.”
What I didn't understand until reading about this new regulation is that the “take back” days are a national event organized by the DEA. The next one is on Saturday 27 September.
”In the past four years, these events have removed from circulation 4.1 million pounds of prescription medications,” reports The Times.
But that's only a drop in the bucket compared to how many drugs are in circulation:
“'The [take back days] only removed an infinitesimal fraction of the reservoir of unused drugs that are out there,' said Dr. Nathaniel Katz, an assistant professor of anesthesia at Tufts University School of Medicine in Boston who studies opioid abuse. 'It’s like trying to eliminate malaria in Africa by killing a dozen mosquitoes.'
“Dr. Katz is optimistic that the D.E.A.’s decision could have a powerful impact. Putting drop-off receptacles for controlled substances in pharmacies will mean consumers have year-round access to disposal services.”
The new regulation is voluntary and does not require pharmacies to have drop off receptacles so it is unknown at this point how many will participate.
It seems such an obviously important service – especially for elders who use more prescription drugs than younger people - that it is amazing it's never been thought of before. You can read the entire story here.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Joanne Zimmermann: Worldwide Music Man
Tuesday, 16 September 2014
What Elder Services are There is Your Town?
[BLOGGING NOTICE: Yesterday, the email, RSS, Twitter and Facebook feeds of the blog post were delayed until mid-morning when a reader advised me of the missing messages. It happened because I forgot to set the day and time for automatic publishing. My apologies.
Last week, when I was not quite sick but not well either and told you about it, SusanG who blogs (sometimes) at Hillsborough NJ Journal, left this note:
”Ronni, when you want a day off would you consider a reader-to-reader feedback day? You choose a reader submitted question asking for other readers' opinions or suggestions.
“For example...what senior services are offered by your town, do you use them, or are their other services you would like to see offered? Or experiences moving away from friends and family. Or whatever.
“I have so much respect for the comments your readers make and always find them useful and thought-provoking.”
Life, always full of surprises and occasionally of the negative variety, pitched me a beauty last Thursday morning when I woke to a massively swollen and painful mouth.
It is enough for you to know that when the dentist pointed to the photograph he'd made of it while he explained the problem, I asked if he could do that while I looked elsewhere.
Since then I've been on around-the-clock antibiotics of two kinds and am exhausted. I thought it was the drugs but according to a trip around the medical internet, it is the underlying infection that is making me tired.
As if that's not enough.
As I've discussed in the past, I wear a denture but with the left side of my face still swollen (though not as much as last week), I'm not sticking anything in my mouth – for food, I'm on soup and mashed potatoes.
So in addition to sleeping a lot, I won't leave the house because no one – make that NO ONE – gets to see me without the denture. You can call it vanity all day long, but that's how it is.
All of the above puts me in no mood to write a blog post and since I agree with SusanG that TGB readers are world class commenters, it's up to you today.
Let's go with one of SusanG's questions:
”...what senior services are offered by your town, do you use them, or are their other services you would like to see offered?”
That is broad enough for there to be a wide spectrum of issues to discuss – services from city, county, state; faith organizations, a Village if there is one where you live; senior centers.
As to the last item, for a bit of impetus you might want to re-read a post from July 2013, Are You a Senior Center Snob?
Whatever interests you about elder services - or lack thereof – that you want to talk about today. I'm eager to see how this goes.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Claire Jean: Old Woman Waits
Monday, 15 September 2014
Aging in Place – Your Town
I grew up in suburban Oregon and California so I had a good deal of experience with suburban living before I moved here to Lake Oswego, Oregon, four years ago.
I also lived for 40 years in New York City and I always believed that it is an ideal place to grow old. (Other densely populated big cities like Chicago and Boston may also be, by my knowledge is of Manhattan.)
That city is made up of many dozens of small villages – most of them geographically much smaller than any small town.
Often they are no more than five or six square blocks, but because each tiny village is so densely packed with people, all the necessities and amenities of daily life are contained within the village borders, walkable for all but the most infirm.
And even then, even before internet shopping and delivery, it is almost possible to live in Manhattan without ever leaving home. My next door neighbor, a healthy, young Wall Street trader, phoned the corner bodega for delivery of his morning coffee and bagel every day of the week for years.
Laundry, cleaners, grocery stores, movie theaters, restaurants (eat in, take out and delivery), varieties of clothing shops, hardware stores, libraries, medical offices, local social services and pretty much anything you need or want is contained within each little village or close enough for an easy walk.
When it's not, public transportation in Manhattan is among the best in the world. There is no need to own a car and therefore none of the fear American elders in suburban towns, or sprawling cities like Houston and Los Angeles, have of one day turning in their car keys.
Over the weekend, The New York Times published a story about how more elder New Yorkers are choosing to age in place nowadays rather than make the traditional escapes to retirement in Florida and the American southwest.
As you might imagine, it being New York City, there is a good deal of contention among residents of different age groups in large residential buildings about how to deal with those who need more help as they grow old.
Elder residents, reports The Times, become forgetful, wander the halls in their night clothes, leave gas stoves on or water running among other issues that can be either dangerous or just annoying to other residents.
But some buildings that have become transformed into NORCs (naturally occurring retirement communities) are creating a variety of ways to deal with and help their elder residents.
”Often, doormen are the first line of defense. 'Me and the other guys know who looks good and who doesn’t look good,' said Michael Lydon, who has been on the service staff of an Upper East Side co-op for 27 years.
“We’ll say, 'Have you seen Mrs. So-and-So recently?' People who are elderly have a routine, like going to Gristede’s on senior citizens’ days. If they break from that routine, that makes us think we should go check on them.'”
Many NORC buildings, according to The Times, are finding other creative and important ways to serve the needs of their elder residents such as one that keeps a list of residents with special needs, such as those who use canes, walkers or wheelchairs, for use if there is an emergency and the building needs to be evacuated.
Another allows deliveries directly to apartment doors of elder residents rather than requiring the packages be left at the front desk as with younger residents. Others arrange for classes or social gatherings in the building and at least one brings in a registered nurse each week to check blood pressure and medications.
Although some building management companies avoid any kind of help to their elder residents citing the possibility of litigation, others welcome the opportunity to help and are finding new ways to do that:
”Seniors? Bring them on, said Dean Feldman, an associate broker at Halstead Property and a resident of Schwab House. 'I know that co-ops aren’t social service agencies,' he said.
“'But we can all do a lot to support all the elderly people in our buildings.' This could include designating 'floor captains' who would take note of newspapers piling up in front of a door and of mail uncollected.”
I bring all this up today because, as we know, the percentage of old people is growing dramatically throughout the world and there are not now, nor will there be, enough “homes” to help those who are no longer entirely independent.
With a little help from such enlightened people at Mr. Dean Feldman, elders themselves are going to have to figure out care for ourselves as we age. One way I write about here from time to time and am working on in my area is the Villages movement.
There are other solutions too and it will take all of them together to help us help one another age in place. We can learn from one another in different places and environments and there are some good ideas in this New York Times story that I'm sure can be applied in a number of ways elsewhere.
At The Elder Storytelling Place today, Trudi Kappel: Tomatoes for Victory